Publish date: Dec 2nd, 2020
BDSM. Bondage. Rope-play. These are just a few of the categories that exist in porn sites because this is an actual kink that people experiment with and enjoy to the point of maximum pleasure. Yes, it is hot and something very interesting to try but did you know that in Japan it is an art?
Yes, an art. It is called Shibari and it is an artistic way of tying a person up all the while it looking very erotic it will turn you on fast. It is a skill to tie someone up Shibari style, and trust us you are going to want to find someone who you can do this to or someone who will do this to you.
What is Shibari?
The original term for Shibari in Japan is Kinbaku but in western countries, it is often called Shibari. The term literally translates to “to bind.”
Again, it is a Japanese way of performing bondage on someone. The goal is to make it look aesthetically pleasing and very, very sexy, of course.
This requires A LOT of ropes because the point is to trap the person in a web of ropes that they won”t be able to escape but are also comfortable that they get turned on. And this is not just a simple wrapping your partner”s hands with a rope, you will have to knot some parts of the rope as well. Some people are forced into unique and difficult positions just for this rope play style.
https://www.instagram.com/p/CA4etRHhqLZ/
It is a true art form and can”t be handled in the wrong way because you might cut off the blood circulation of the one you are tying up and you don”t want that to happen. So it must be tried in the most careful way possible. You want the experience to be a pleasurable experience for you and your partner.
Why and How Do People Practice It
People find pleasure and calmness with practicing Shibari. The way the ropes are knotted and the placements of those knots aren”t just a random spot – it is supposed to hit pressure points that will give your partner a rush of pleasure.
For those who are doing the act of Shibari on another person, they find it pleasurable and meditative. It gives them a sense of empowerment and a feeling that they are in control.
https://www.instagram.com/p/B-fYAjBB6cD/
And don”t have a misconception that this is done all just for the act of having sex. It is not just some fetish to people who do this for real – it is mental stimulation to them. For couples who try it also, it is a form of bonding with your partner, a new way to be intimate with each other. Some couples can say that trying out Shibari brought them closer together.
If this is new to you, you might think “that must hurt.” But we all know that there is pain that is also pleasure. That is why BDSM exists, why choking during sexual intercourse is pleasurable and ass spanking turns a lot of people on. There will always be a line of pain being pleasurable and it being uncomfortable and actually painful. That is why you should try this with someone you can communicate with and you can both adjust. The main goal of all of this should be the pleasure of both parties.
Shibari Terms You Should Know
There are actual terms for people who do Shibari and different types of ties that you should familiarize yourself with.
The person who is doing the tying is called a Rigger while the one being tied up is a Rope Bunny.
You can do Shibari all mainly on the floor. But some advanced people try suspension – where the rope bunny is lifted off the ground tied up in a unique asymmetrical shape.
https://www.instagram.com/p/B-O9eFDhuL6/
A single column tie is when you have a knot in one part of the body while a double column tie is tying two parts of the body together.
Also, just so you know there is a specific rope used for Shibari. It is usually made out of hemp or something not stretchable. The rope has a certain grip that makes it easier to tie someone up. Make sure to have scissors that can cut Shibari rope specifically, just in case you need to untie someone immediately.
The Japanese people and culture is very interesting to the point that even this kink is made into a beautiful art form. And it is not as easy as just tying as well. It is something that needs practice and knowledge.
What is great about it is it can not only provide you pleasure but it can also serve as a way of meditating.
Shibari is no joke and is something you should try but remember that you will need to be careful. But most importantly remember to enjoy it too.